Should you hit pause on your BDSM power dynamic when life becomes difficult and/or busy?

While I'd agree that a Dominant woman is more likely to be disciplined, it's also the case that submissive types can be disciplined in their habits and behaviour. Discipline is a choice. Do you find highly controlled and disciplined woman sexy? Because it's likely that a D-type woman (Dominant) is disciplined ... after all control is in her very nature and that likely includes control over her own behaviour and not just yours only. Now given that you find it sexy and an appealing character...

You want her more Dominant? You want a female led relationship? That starts with what she wants, rather than what you want.