How To Spot A Scammer

Are you interested in considering sex workers for services or a relationship, but want to avoid the many money scammers that plague both Fetlife and X?

First of all, instead of listening to the many people that tell you that up front tributes are a sign of a scammer, understand that this alone is NOT the sign of a scammer.

Tributes are required by ALL online Prodommes prior to engaging in any sort of communication about what sort of relations you are interested in with them. This is industry standard across the board, and not a sign that she is about to scam you.

Why Do Legitimate Sex Workers Want A Tribute?

Many professional sex workers (who are not scammers) use a tribute to prevent their time being wasted, this is a payment that pays for their time in an initial consultation.

This avoids them giving men free detailed consultation communications that they are simply wanking to with no real serious interest in the service - which I assure you would happen 20 x a day if she let it. This would waste huge amounts of her time, and time is money.

Where you see a tribute requirement, you do not necessarily see a scammer - what you instead may be seeing is a professional who also does not want to be scammed on a daily basis to the detriment of her business income.

Men are not the only people being scammed online - if they allowed it to happen, Prodommes would be too.

Given that a request for a tribute is NOT a sign of a scammer, how can you tell the difference between a scammer and a legitimate Professional Domme (Prodomme) who simply does not want to be scammed herself?

There are MANY ways to distinguish if she is a scammer or not (regardless of whether she is asking for a tribute up front or not). These include;

• Does she appear to have existing happy customers that you see videos and pictures of in her social media accounts? IE do you see her playing kink play with a range of different men in the manner that makes it obvious she has existing customer base. Scammers don't have customers, they have largely empty profiles and empty promises.

• Does she have a professional website with lots of useful content on it such as blogs and guides? Very few scammers are likely to go that far in their attempt to scam people.

• Is she willing for you to contact any of her existing or previous customers for a reference to ensure she is legit? Scammers cannot offer this to you, because they don't have any customers.

• Does she appear to have some sort of social media following (though this does not have to be huge). Because anyone who has a legitimate business that they have worked on for a length of time, will have a social media following and indeed signs of them interacting online and writing lots of posts and content on those accounts.

  
  

Scammers will not invest this level of time into scamming people, because at this point they are actually working hard for their money rather than just enjoying a quick and easy scam.

What Is A Romance Scammer?

A professional asking for money in return for services or their time, is not scamming anyone. They're simply doing their job, just as you do on a weekly basis.

A person that pretends they want a real relationship with you, while attempting to also illicit money, is a romance scammer.

There is a certain type of working lady, who knows she's a working lady, but pretends she isn't. She's called a romance scammer, and she's anything but professional.

How many times have you come across a profile, been interested in said lady, and when you've contacted her she's demanded a tribute? And yet there was nothing on her profile to suggest she is a Prodomme looking for payment?

Even worse only after a lot of conversation and luring you in, is when she asks for payment. Wasting your time on what you thought was a woman looking for a real relationship.

It can become even darker than that, if she's been luring you in for some time - and now you're not sure whether she's a professional trying to get paid, or just a Domme you're falling for that needs some help.

Welcome to the Romance Scam.

IF someone is a working professional (and not a scammer) they will label themselves as such on their profiles and your first conversations with them will make it very clear they are looking for payment.

If early conversations yield confusion about her status and what she is looking for ... ie she is wanting to chat with you and says she is interested in a real relationship, yet somehow is also asking for money at the same time ... you are walking into a romance scam.