The Art Of Patience; for submissive men

Amazon may offer next day delivery, but that’s not how relationships work.

Just because a relationship is transactional, that doesn't make it any different; it still needs a time and effort investment on both sides - like any other relationship.

If you want a rewarding Domme/sub relationship, it’s going to take time, effort and lots of communication. That includes if your chosen Domme is a professional Domme (Prodomme).

You can’t approach it with a list of demands in your mind (and then start verbalising them within a matter of days) and expect it to happen overnight. Yes you have kink needs, but allow her to ask you about these, instead of pushing them at her.

Instead of pushing, take your time to get to know the other person and accept that rewarding experiences do not happen inside of a week. They don’t even happen inside of a month.

If you have a throwaway attitude to life (and indeed people), then you’ll never gain any of the things in life that are worth having.

In particular submissive men who push hard at their own agenda with a list of their needs within the early conversations, are very likely to put off a Dominant woman with their pushy attitude.

This is because it feels like an attempt at controlling to her. A big no no, when attempting to present yourself as 'submissive'.

Give the relationship time to evolve slowly and more naturally.

Also remember - if you want to enter a dynamic where she is in control and you are not, starting out in the early days by trying to take control of the communication pace (and give her any sort of list of ‘needs’ that you have), is going to put her off.

Wait.

• Wait for her to ask the important questions about you.

• Wait for her to find out what your needs are via her own questioning, not through you listing your needs.

• Wait for the information exchange between you to evolve slowly and more naturally.

  
  

If weeks have passed and she never asks, then maybe she’s not a good communicator, or she doesn’t care about your needs (in which case, take a walk).

But if you don’t give her time to get there and instead feel the need to control it yourself within the first week or two, you’re going to put her off, I promise you.

And if you don’t have two weeks patience in you, then I’m afraid you also do not have what it takes to become a good submissive slave.

Slaves have to wait for direction, instead of being impatient and trying to take control of things themselves. Which is one of the reasons why she’s put off when you try to rush things.

Yes you might not have committed to be her slave yet during the early days of finding out more about each other - but behaving as though you are incapable of patience and taking direction, is a very good way to never become her slave.