I Wish She Was More Dominant (FLR)

You want her more dominant? Sexually, and in other ways too?

And perhaps you would love to be in an FLR? (Female Led Relationship).

Well you can't trick or nag her into it and sneaking around behind her back with more dominant women is a short term fix that will 100% result in the end of your relationship. Yes, this is sadly the route that many men are taking, instead of communicating with their partner.

Instead you're going to have to open up an honest dialogue about both of your needs, and how you can both get your needs met. If your partner is resisting these conversations, you need to communicate that it is very important to you that this is explored - and that if she is finding it difficult to discuss, you would like to visit a couples therapist to help you through the communications.

Yes, you need to grow the balls to say that and do that.

This dialogue should be detailed and it should happen many times over. Only through hard work, total honesty and ongoing regular communication will you reach an understanding and both begin to try new things with the aim of a more satisfactory relationship.

Want an FLR?

Start with these communications and request that small control changes happen first - give her time to get used to small things and see if she enjoys those changes before making any tweaks or advancements.

Don't forget amid all of this to ask her what she wants, and what changes she wants to see in the relationship. You said you want to be FEMALE LED after all, and being female led is about what she wants and decides, not about what you think is best.

YOU WANTED HER MORE DOMINANT YOU SAID - SO DO AS YOU ARE TOLD.

Men in Female Led Relationships follow her lead and do as they are told, and if good enough, perhaps may find themselves adorned with a collar such as my collar below.